I was hit with waves of loneliness sometime last week. The feeling comes and goes, and when it’s there, there’s that temptation to go to the dark side.
I googled and Newcomers Network came up. I decided to go last Friday, thinking that I really have to go out there to make friends. I was sleepy that afternoon at work, but the nice spring evening snapped me out of it.
I thought that there would be someone who will meet people at the entrance of the Rendezvous Hotel bar, but no…I saw a group of middle-aged people with name tags and frankly, I was intimidated. I stood in silence at the entrance until I saw a girl (who I think) is my age saunter to the bar to get a drink. Nina, who is from the UK, came with her boyfriend and introduced me to Sue, who was the event organizer. She led me to mingle with Marianne and John. Marianne is a student at Victoria University and worked part-time until she quit the day before. John is a motivational speaker and gives seminars to corporations–from middle managers to front-line people.
Sue shifted people around as more people came in. I spent most of the evening with siblings Ann and Chong (Malaysian; students), Kaitlin (American; art student), and Mohammad (from Saudi Arabia, medical student). A big group of us left close to 9pm to get dinner and Rob ( some-sort-of-environemnt consultant; Dutch) ended up in our group. We had dimsum at Dumplings Plus on Swanston Street.
Dinner was quite pleasant and everyone came clean about how awkward it was to be socializing for 2, 3 hours straight earlier that evening. We were all tired! It was also interesting to discover how most of us decided to move to Australia by choice because we liked the quality of life and better opportunities. Rob told me all about his job and I thought it’s interesting. He analyzes products and determines the enviromental impact of the product, from the raw materials to bringing it to store shelves. Heck, honestly, I’d be interested to study that!
I’m glad I went, hopefully I am going at the right direction to stop the bouts of loneliness. I sent an invite to the group to the Tesselaar Tulip Festival, so hopefully I’ll see them again.
Tomorrow I plan to run on the Tan track, hopefully meet this running club whose members meet there every Monday.